My family have been members of our Temple for almost seven years now and in all of this time I have never joined any of the clubs or committees. The kids' mother has been a member of the Sisterhood since just about day one, but due to work commitments and exhaustion I just never participated in anything other than the regular religious services.
This year I decided to make a change. This would be the year that I finally joined the Men’s Club and started building my own social network at the shul instead of depending upon my daughter’s circles of friends. So I took the Daughter to Sunday Religious School and attended the morning minyan as I do each week and met up with the Men’s Club President afterwards. I told him about being a member of the shul for several years, etc. etc. and by the end of the meeting I had not only joined the Men’s Club, but I was also appointed Secretary of the Men's Club and invited to make inputs on the Sukkah project and join in on the sandbox project.
After the meeting I came to realize that the wives and mothers are the real political power at our shul. None of our projects interfere with theirs, none of our fund raisers can interfere with theirs, and we tend to move heavy things for them. Okay, fine by me. So nothing has really changed but now I get to pay membership dues.
This year I decided to make a change. This would be the year that I finally joined the Men’s Club and started building my own social network at the shul instead of depending upon my daughter’s circles of friends. So I took the Daughter to Sunday Religious School and attended the morning minyan as I do each week and met up with the Men’s Club President afterwards. I told him about being a member of the shul for several years, etc. etc. and by the end of the meeting I had not only joined the Men’s Club, but I was also appointed Secretary of the Men's Club and invited to make inputs on the Sukkah project and join in on the sandbox project.
After the meeting I came to realize that the wives and mothers are the real political power at our shul. None of our projects interfere with theirs, none of our fund raisers can interfere with theirs, and we tend to move heavy things for them. Okay, fine by me. So nothing has really changed but now I get to pay membership dues.
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